Forbidden Love

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My experience working is not much even at the age now which is approaching the figure of 40. Even now I am an unemployed person. So I'm still unmarried. 

To be honest, this situation makes me feel ashamed of myself. Yet I believe that everything that happens must have its wisdom.

Despite limited work experience. I still have the opportunity to gain experience about things that happened during the period I worked before. 

Something that is very embarrassing for those involved is the illicit contact among staff working in the same place. Despite already having a partner, still stuck with intimate relationships at work.

In my opinion, there are many factors that cause cheating among married employees. The most logical factor is because of lust in someone other than one’s own partner. 

A day we have 24 hours, 8 hours we allocate to working time, while 8 hours is more to sleep time and the remaining 8 hours is time that is not allocated with family or partner after working hours.

A different angle, we must admit that as normal human beings, there are times when we face a very stressful situation, perhaps at home or at work, while the couple does not care much about what is experienced by their partner. 

This situation causes the wife or husband to express the problems faced to a friend at work who is sometimes very understanding more than the partner. This, in turn, leads to the existence of another feeling towards colleagues who are listeners of the problems faced. That's when the situation of cheating began

The case of illicit romance at work, seems to be the norm, is most distressing when it can be sniffed by a couple at home. There are cases involving sexual intercourse between individuals involved during office hours.

There are cases that I have come across. The couple's previous relationship was very good. but due to the possibility of the existence of such elements as is said, eventually there is a divorce in which the victims are definitely children.

In one case, it was initially a subordinate employee. A beautiful woman and has an excellent marital relationship. However, the couple divorced without me knowing the cause. 

Most surprising to me was that the female staff member became the wife of her superior in the office. Honestly, I myself have fallen into the problems mentioned. 

The main factor is appearance at work and the temptation of lust, but thank God I survived doing something that will make me regret forever. Just imagine, the pressure is very intense work, the couple in the house does not motivate or a listener, then at the same time a friend at work without any intention to do good more than it should. Would not it be able to invite temptation beyond ?.

How to overcome cheating ?, in my opinion, it depends on yourself. how to control the situation and ensure that oneself does not fall into the temptations that exist. 

It is only necessary for each couple to always communicate, especially at home. Every couple definitely needs attention and it can only be obtained from the husband or wife but not from anyone else.

Divorce is easier than getting married. Every couple who intends to divorce. Hope to think deeply especially the impact that will be faced after that. Never talk about family to friends at work because that will invite feelings that should not be there.

I fear the impact on children when there is a divorce between their parents. The fact that children need both, the husband must be honest with the wife, and vice versa. 

If the couple plays their respective roles as husband and wife and parents to the children. I strongly believe that the social problems that exist in society can be reduced.
Location: Putrajaya, Wilayah Persekutuan Putrajaya, Malaysia

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